This is a place for new young dads, f*ck it and old dads, to bs about the struggles and victories of being a father.
My names Mike, I’m a 30-year-old Marine Corps veteran, husband, and father of 2 awesome kids who can sometimes be sh*theads, but I love them and wouldn’t trade my life for anything. My oldest is my girl who is almost 3, and my youngest is my boy who’s 1 and some change, yeah, we didn’t waste much time. Neither were exactly planned, but we’re adults who knew the risks of what we were doing.
When I found out I was going to be a father I was absolutely terrified, and you probably were too. I had just turned 27 but felt like I was still 18. I wasn’t ready to be a dad but then again, I don’t think anyone is ever truly ready. My life was going to be different and I knew it the second I looked into that little girl’s eyes. The days of bar hopping with my buddies till 2am, and me and the wife doing what we wanted, when we wanted were going to be over…
Little did I know that change would be the best thing to ever happen to me. Me and my wife still find time for us, and still make it a point to hang out with our friends, but it is different. And that’s ok, as a man and a father our priorities change, our goals become different. As selfish as it may sound, before you have kids your goals and priorities often revolve around yourself, or you and your lady friend (or guy friend I’m not here to judge). The second you become a father though it all changes, or at least it did for me. My long-term goals may have been similar, but my motivation was different. I no longer wanted to achieve success so that I could live a life of luxury, I wanted to be successful so that I could give my children the best possible life.
Every man is different, and every father will have different ideas on what is the “right” way of raising our kids. But we all have struggles and defeats, but more importantly we all have victories. And ultimately, regardless if we disagree on how to do it, we all just want to do the best we can and raise a good human.
-That’s Just Dad Sh*t
